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Grief, Grit & Eye Bags
A blog about grief, rage, paperwork, and trying to heal without losing your mind (again).
The Grief No One Warns You About on New Year’s Eve
I thought Christmas Day would be the hardest. So I planned. I filled the day. I made sure it was loud and bright and full of people. I threw myself into the performance of “everything’s fine” because I couldn’t bear the thought of my little boy missing out on the...
The Eulogy I Never Gave: Grief, Guilt, and Doing What You Can
Last week, I went to my mother-in-law's funeral. Audrey. Fierce, vibrant, funny Audrey. Except she hadn’t really been Audrey for some time. Alzheimer’s had softened her edges, dulled her spark. The woman who once took charge of everything from dinner to job...
When the Job Doesn’t Fit Anymore: Widowhood, Work, and What Comes Next
I see it again and again in widow forums: someone quietly posts that they just can’t go back to their old job. The spark is gone. The purpose is gone. The energy is definitely gone. And they’re left wondering: Is this normal? (Spoiler: yes.) For many of us, the job we...
Nobody Wants to Join This Club — But Damn, the Members Are Good
Earlier this year, I met K. It was January, in Sarasota, Florida. I was there as a facilitator on a incredible retreat for widows—not a guest, although that kind of deep receiving is something I still long for. Yoga, meditation, breath work—these ancient rituals have...
The Power of Being Seen (Even Just for a Moment)
I don’t mean physically. I mean emotionally, mentally, nervously—held in a way where someone actually hears you. Where you don’t have to justify how hard things have been or explain why you’re still not "over it." Where you’re not strong for anyone. You’re just human....
Why Two Days Away Can Change Everything – The Power of Retreat
Last week I took a two-day trip. It wasn’t a holiday, exactly. I brought my son with me, and it had a purpose: to visit the retreat venue I booked months ago for my October retreat. A venue I had committed to without ever having seen in person. I’d made the decision...
Juggling Grief (and Everything Else)
Well… I did it again.After weeks of carefully crafting emails, setting up automations, and generally working my ass off to promote something important — I hit send on the wrong list. Instead of sending access details just to the wonderful widows who booked our Widows...
When Father’s Day Doesn’t Fit Anymore – Grief and Quiet Rituals
Father’s Day has quietly become a bit of a non-day in our house. Actually—Mother’s Day too. These days. These dates. Who even invented them? When everyone’s alive and well, they’re wonderful, sure. Full of joy and cards and little-kid scribbles that make you cry in...
Why Are We Left Alone After Loss?
I know you’ve been bombarded recently with all my emails about Widows Connect. But now that it’s over, I wanted to share how it went. Because something really profound happened. The reason Karen and I run this event — three years in a row now — is simple: there are so...
The Unexpected Grief of Losing My Doctor – A Story of Love, Loss & Letters
I went to the doctor’s. I’m terrible at booking appointments—phones are the devil, and I have the executive function of a deflated balloon—so the fact that I stopped in person on a whim was a big deal. The catalyst? A two-hour ordeal dropping my son at school. His...
I Thought I Understood Grief… Until I Didn’t
When my husband died, I thought I knew what grief felt like—I’d lost family before, been to funerals, experienced deep sadness. But this was different. This was grief that unraveled every part of my life. In this post, I’m sharing what really happened in the months...
The First Time I Felt a Glimmer Again (And Didn’t Trust It)
There was a moment — not long after my husband died — when I was in a yoga class full of strangers and somehow ended up upside down. Knees on elbows. Head balancing on the floor. A tripod headstand. It lasted maybe two seconds. But it was the first time I’d felt...
Feel The Fear. Do It Anyway. How widowhood taught me to live bravely.
When I started this new life after loss, fear walked beside me every step of the way. It still does. But I’ve learned something powerful: You don’t have to wait for fear to leave to move forward. Since I started doing this work — sharing healing yoga,...
Starting Small When Everything Feels Too Big
After my husband Andy died, everything about my life exploded into chaos. Grieving while trying to “figure things out” felt completely impossible. It still does, sometimes. What I’ve learned, the hard way, is that when you’re overwhelmed, you have to start small —...
When Guilt Sneaks Up After Loss: A Personal Story
Since Andy died, guilt has found its way into my life in the most unexpected moments. Guilt after loss is one of the hardest things to carry — because no one teaches you what to do with it. The Morning Guilt Found Me Again I stoped...
Holidaying and solo parenting. Is it a holiday?
I’m seeing lovely family summer getaway photos all over social media right now. The fun, the adventure, the mishaps - ahhh, that FOMO feeling, isn't it great. But holidays are not what they once were. You know how usually when...
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